growing up

so, today i was standing outside at school when my cousin walked out of one of our buildings. she works and studies at another university on the other side of town so i was obviously surprised to see her. it turns out she was teaching a class on campus this morning. it worked out that we both had an hour to spare (a delightful and rare thing for two graduate students at the end of the semester!), so we went and got a cup of coffee. we sat outside at a little table and talked.

now, our fathers are actually first cousins, so we are whatever that makes us. she's a year older than i am and we've grown up seeing each other once or twice a year and usually spending several days together at our family farm at thanksgiving. so, it's not like we actually spend all that much time together. we are very different in many ways...and a lot alike in a lot of ways that are, i suppose, more of a coincidence than anything else. but, who really knows about these things?

but, today, we sat outside for an hour or so and talked. we talked about the graduate degrees we are both just a month away from completing. we talked about the work we are each passionate about and the ways that work has recently come into reality. we each talked about the man we love. we looked back at the deep and abiding grief we have each experienced in the last few years. we talked about the amazing ways God is working in our lives and helping us grow in that pain and into abundant lives.

so, here we are. two women who somehow ended up as adults who have found our way to contentment and joy. it is a good day.